"I am NOT 'submitting' to a man!"
Chill, sister soldier. "Submit" does NOT mean that a woman should allow a man to control her, abuse her, belittle her, or use her. God is LOVE, and that does NOT reflect God's love.
In short, to "submit" to your husband means the following: Your husband is to be the head of the household, taking care of you and your family; your husband is leading AS he is being led by GOD.
You cannot submit to just ANY man. Make sure he is God's will for you—because a man who truly loves the LORD and is submissive to God and His will, while you cannot expect him to be perfect, he will certainly love and lead you and the household righteously and faithfully.
As for you, the amazing wife: A good man knows the incredible value of a good woman! You are to be your husband's "help meet". What does this mean? "Help meet" means "suitable helper". This means you are a TEAM. This means that a woman's "help" is IMPORTANT in a man's life—as God's Holy Word tells us the following:
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
-Genesis 2:18 (KJV)
The Amplified version explains the following:
Now the LORD God said, “It is not good (beneficial) for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper [one who balances him—a counterpart who is] suitable and complementary for him.”
-Genesis 2:18
Ladies, please read Proverbs 31:10-31: The virtuous woman is an amazing partner for her husband, while still being amazing in other areas as well. This woman had her own business, purposes, and skills (not that all of this is required of her, but she was capable and she achieved her goals, and she still took care of her family as a wife). You becoming one with your husband does not mean you lose purpose. Not at all. You will have purpose as individuals, and you will have purpose together as one with each other.
In marriage, you are a TEAM. You LOVE each other. You are to be PURPOSEFUL with each other. You SUPPORT each other. A man has his duties as a husband, it is quite a responsibility to care for a household. Keeping this in mind, ladies, (prepare yourselves if you are unmarried, evaluate yourselves if you are married, and) bring something to the table as well—and that is YOUR VALUE AS A WOMAN. Please, KNOW that you are VALUABLE and ACTIVELY STAND in this beautiful truth. LOVING your husband also means being aware that men have feelings too, this is part of where being a loving "help meet" comes in: Love him faithfully. Encourage him. Talk to him. Be his confidant. Be his best friend. Be loving ears that listen when he needs someone to talk to—be that someone. Be a shoulder for him to cry on (yes, men cry, and that is okay). Make love to your husband selflessly and lovingly; your husband is not an object of lust, he is a man who desires every part of your love, just like you desire every part of his love (sex is one of the many expressions of love, and 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 are also important verses here). Edify him. Pray for him. Pray with him. Love his soul.
Let your union be a reflection of the relationship between Jesus Christ and His bride (the body of Christ)—loving, caring, at times self-sacrificial, united, a team, purposeful, respectful, in God's will, pleasing to God. You submit to each other in special ways, ways that are unique to your positions as "husband" and "wife", and in the same ways simply as children of God. SERVE EACH OTHER, LOVINGLY. (Please read Ephesians 5:21-33.)
Humbly said, it is now 5:58am [at the time this was recorded]. It has been over an hour and a half since God started pouring all of these words into my spirit. As led by God, prayerfully, I wrote them all down and am sharing them now.
I love you all, but God loves you BEST of all. May God bless you all.
Charrese Monique
Boldness & Virtue Ministries
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