Welcome to Boldness & Virtue Ministries! We are about to talk about everyday life, matters of the heart, and many big topics—and we are going to grow, find solutions, heal, and enjoy life along the way! All of life's answers can certainly be found in the Word of God—and we are about to explore! Here, you will find encouraging words, videos, smiles, and more! Know that you are so special and so loved! To God be all the glory! | John 14:6
An Important Message on Relationships (of all
Kinds)
and Communication:
"Differences" is not always the problem:
Failing to communicate properly—with love, patience, and kind
speaking tones; with the willingness to actually listen to one another and at
least try to understand one another, instead of verbally or mentally cutting
one another off, instead of automatically being ready to disagree or defend
without truly listening first; and without conclusion jumping, rude facial
expressions, and bad attitudes—are the problems. Excluding God is a problem.
Wisely ponder your words and responses (silently if necessary),
then talk. If necessary, kindly step away, pray, and then return to the
conversation later (making sure to not go to bed angry at each other, as that
gives room for Satan to have a foothold, Ephesians 4:26-27). Pray together
before beginning or continuing on with a discussion. Consider each other's
feelings and life experiences (while not making each other pay for your pasts).
Be mindful of your own words and actions, or a lack thereof where there should
have been—and acknowledge, take responsibility, and apologize for any offenses
on your behalf if any exist. How the other individual in the matter responds or
carries themselves is between God and them—God will address them in His own way
Himself, God will lead you on how and when to address them if it is called for,
or a combination of both will occur. Just do your parts, prayerfully and with
love and forgiveness. Apologize in general for anything less than unity and
love, no matter who you think is at fault.
All of that applies to every type of relationship—friendships,
family, with that special someone, marriage. The main and most vital components
of healthy relationships and communication that absolutely cannot be excluded
are the following: God (our Heavenly Father, Jesus, His Holy Spirit), love,
respect, and forgiveness.
Be led by the Holy Spirit with one another, and allow His
beautiful fruit to be produced:
But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives:
love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
-Galatians 5:22
I love you all, but God loves you BEST of all. May God bless you
all.
In Obedience to My Heavenly Father,
Charrese Monique Boldness & Virtue Ministries
Copyright 2021, Charrese
Monique. All Rights Reserved.
On the morning of December 18, 2020, God woke me up out of my sleep to put together this video and share it. Topic: Miracles STILL Happen!
With a humble heart, as led by the LORD, I am sharing clips from a testimony I shared on October 12, 2019: With my medical records provided, I will be sharing my testimony of how prayer works, how Jesus healed me in a situation that could have costed me my life. Doctors could not help me! Medicine could not help me, it only made things worse! Only Jesus could help me! His healing! Hallelujah!
(Yes, I feel a little uncomfortable sharing, as I look back at this video and I can see that I was still recovering, and you'll see pictures of my colon. However, I also look back and see evidence of miracles! I see a survivor. I see that my testimony is not just for me—it is also for you. So, in obedience to my loving Heavenly Father, humbly and gladly, I am sharing.)
Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.
-Hebrews 13:8
Please click the photo below or follow the link under the photo to watch my testimony. I was not able to link the video here, directly—but God's will prevails!
Note: I removed the pictures of what happened to my
face, as God allowed since it was a bit traumatizing for me. However, they are in the original video on YouTube. Thank you.
I love you all, but GOD truly loves you BEST of all! May God
bless you all!
Prayerfully Typed by the Leading of the Holy Spirit, All Glory to God, Charrese Monique
Boldness & Virtue Ministries
Copyright 2020, Charrese Monique. All Rights Reserved.
Someone
asked me about "soul ties". The LORD led me into a Bible study to
answer this question with biblical references. The Holy Spirit led me in
answering this kind young lady. He has also led me to share the answer with
everyone. Please read what the LORD says about so-called "SOUL TIES".
"Soul
ties" are a false teaching created by Satan to try to cause us to feel
mentally bound. As the LORD leads (I am typing prayerfully, being led by the
Holy Spirit), this will be backed up with His Holy Word.
There
are many false teachings out there. The LORD warns about these in His Holy
Word:
15
“Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing,
but inwardly
they are ravenous wolves.
-Matthew
7:15
But
there were also false prophets among the people, even as there will be false
teachers among you, who will secretly bring in destructive heresies, even
denying the Lord who bought them, and bring on themselves swift destruction.
-2
Peter 2:1
Satan
creates falsehoods (he tells an abundance of lies) to create fears within us.
Some of the most believable lies are ones that have SOME truth injected into
them—but THAT is what makes them believable, THAT is what makes it DECEPTION:
it is the "BAIT and SWITCH."
If
Satan can create fears within us, he can have some power over our minds, and if
we let him, over our futures as well. Because of his lies, some people might
feel that it is "too late" for them to come to Christ or to return to
Christ—so they stay in the world, are depressed, remain struggling in their
sins, and so on, all because they have been led to believe lies about God's
love, God's Word, and about themselves.
Speaking
specifically about "soul ties", Satan can use that lie to cause
people to believe that they are cursed, especially regarding their love life,
or that it is too late for them to have a loving relationship or be married;
Satan can make it difficult for them to completely move forward from exes and
heartbreak—because they believe the lie that they are somehow BOUND to them.
Two souls being bound to or intertwined with each other is not possible—that is
a lie from Satan. We all have our OWN souls, and our OWN souls will either
spend eternity in Heaven or Hell. Even if you are married, your SOUL is yours:
You CANNOT go to Heaven or Hell as "ONE"—that is NOT Biblical.
Here
are a couple scriptures used to supposedly "back up" the false
teaching of "soul ties" . . . and the TRUTH will then follow:
SCRIPTURE:Now
when he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the
soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. -1 Samuel 18:1
TRUTH: This is not literal, it is just
an EXPRESSION that means the following: Two people can have so much in common
and have such a deep connection, that those two people have a special bond.
Refer back to the last part of that verse, "Jonathan loved him *AS* his
own soul." They DID NOT and CANNOT actually BECOME one soul. On to the
next scripture.
SCRIPTURE:16
Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For
“the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.”
-1
Corinthians 6:16
TRUTH: This is another EXPRESSION, it
is NOT literal. "One" means the following: Closely and intimately
united.
The
teaching and warning here is that becoming "one" (being closely,
rather, sexually, intimate) with your husband or wife is spiritually lawful—it
is not a sin. While being "one" (being closely, rather, sexually,
intimate) with a harlot or someone you are NOT married to, is fornication—it is
a sin.
Note
that God did NOT say "one SOUL", He said "one FLESH". You
are joining your FLESH together when you have sexual intercourse. How you have
sex, the very ACT of sex, joins your FLESH together.
Now,
"becoming one" with your husband or wife, this is a SPIRITUAL
JOINING, joined together by GOD, as marriage is a HOLY UNION. Sex is just one
of the many expressions of love and one of many loving responsibilities (see
verses below) in a marriage.
Verses
about marital sex:
3
The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill
her husband’s needs. 4 The wife gives authority over her body to her husband,
and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.
5
Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain
from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more
completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan
won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this
as a concession, not as a command. -1
Corinthians 7:3-6
Fornication
is a sin, but it can be forgiven. We are not bound to or tied with another
person's soul when we sin—we are just in sin, backslidden, and are in danger of
Hell. HOWEVER, GOD IS SO LOVING AND HE FORGIVES!
9
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to
cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
-1
John 1:9
See,
God not only FORGIVES us, He also CLEANSES US from all unrighteousness. He did
not say, "I forgive you, but you are tied to that sin or that person’s
soul." Again, that is IMPOSSIBLE because we ALL have our OWN soul to be
held accountable for (2 Corinthians 5:10).
I
love you all, but GOD truly loves you BEST of all! May God bless you all!
Prayerfully
Typed by the Leading of the Holy Spirit,
All
Glory to God,
Charrese
Monique
Boldness & Virtue Ministries
Copyright
2020, Charrese Monique. All Rights Reserved.
Happy 17 Years of Celibacy (Until
Marriage) to me! (This is not an exact date, it is a vicinity.)
I do not consider myself to be better
than ANYONE! The LORD has led me to share my celibacy journey and the benefits
of waiting until marriage.
Humbly said and glory to God: I have
been celibate for 17 years! Yes, I am almost 35 and I am celibate until
marriage, I will not kiss anyone simply based on physical attraction (I have
not kissed anyone in over four years, I have no problem with kissing, that
special moment just hasn't happened yet), I am not yet married, and I have no
children (yet). Some people find my previous statement odd, they get curious,
they question me (and my family *laughing*), I have even been treated as if
something is wrong with me . . . . However, I embrace my celibacy journey with
confidence in God's will for my life, knowing that all of God’s decisions and
desires for me are rooted in His LOVE for me, including regarding my love life.
Here is why celibacy before marriage is
rewarding and awesome:
Your Body is Not a Bargaining Tool:
If you have to use your body to get or
to keep a man/woman, he/she is not "the one" God desires for you. God
desires for you to be LOVED— not used, objectified or lusted after. Maintaining
this mindset helps you to keep your spiritual walk, integrity, self-respect,
and (humble) self-love healthy.
Having Patience and Honoring God’s Holy
Word are Rewarding:
Firstly, it is best
to be single and wait patiently on true love given by GOD—so that you can
experience a loving, faithful, overall happy, healthy, relationship and
marriage. Instead of settling for or rushing into the arms of the wrong person
(even a possible plant from Satan), in order to try to alleviate feelings of
loneliness or eliminate fears of ending up alone—and experiencing avoidable
pain, discord, distress, and heartache in your life as results of a toxic
situation.
Now, on to sex. Celibacy before marriage
is beautiful and beneficial: It provides more focus on building a strong
foundation of godliness, best-friend-ship, openness, comfort with one another,
and love. A strong holy, loving, respectful, foundation is so very important to
have to build upon. Take sex and sexual activities out of the equation until
marriage, and lust and the "natural high" producing endorphins
produced by the climax of sex cannot be mistaken for love. God is not the
author of confusion. Therefore, God does not want us to be confused about
whether or not we are in love or in lust, or whether or not someone truly loves
us or is just lusting after us. While sex has been created to be very beautiful
and very pleasurable (between a husband and wife, faithfully), please
understand that there is more to love and marriage than sex: You are loving,
marrying, and sharing a life with, a personality, a heart, a mind, a spirit; a
being with a soul, feelings, thoughts, and emotions; someone with talents,
gifts, and purpose; a creation of God, whom He also has a will for—not just a
body.
Allow God to Prepare You for the Future:
Over the years, my journey has been very
heartbreaking, and even lonely at times. However, however, however!: My journey
has also been very rewarding, strengthening, empowering, and beautiful! I have
grown as a woman of God, as a woman in general, and as a person. God has
prepared me for my future. Now, I am not just "ready", I am also
PREPARED. That's another beautiful thing about waiting: In your season of
waiting, God prepares you, and your future husband/wife, for the life He has in
store for you! He also prepares you for each other—how to love each other, how
to be loved by each other, for your spiritual purpose(s) together as one, and
more. You are set up for success, by God Himself!
Conclusion:
GOD'S WILL being fulfilled as well as
having AUTHENTIC LOVE are vital. Knowledge, understanding, and the valuing of
both, all come from seeking God by reading His Word and by having a prayer life
(talking to AND listening to God).
THIS is love, right
from the Source, our Heavenly Father:
4 Love is patient and
kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand
its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It
does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through
every circumstance. -1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Seek God and His will for your life.
Pray. Wait patiently. Trust God and His love for you. God's got a perfect plan
for your life! Humbly said, I surely know my Heavenly Father does for mine. [Heavenly
Father, thy perfect will shall always be done in my life, on earth as it is in
Heaven!]
I love you all, but
God loves you BEST of all! May God bless you all!
Typed Prayerfully,
All Glory to God,
Charrese Monique
Boldness & Virtue Ministries
*Kindly and humbly said, the focuses of this post are NOT me or my love
life. Please refer to A Little Some Extra below for an important message. Thank you.*
Important
Message Regarding Posts About Celibacy and My Testimony:
Making sure God's intended purposes for His mission for me stay
intact, and making sure the direction of the celibacy posts stay in alignment
with GOD'S WILL, I must explain the following:
God led me to share
about celibacy before marriage and my testimony for these reasons only: to
encourage celibacy before marriage and to shed light on all of the benefits and
beauty in waiting until marriage to have sex. The intention is NOT to share about
my love life. As prayerfully led by the LORD, only pieces of my love life,
mainly past lessons, have to be included because, sometimes, the topic of
celibacy goes hand in hand with one's love life. However, my love life is NOT
the focus: God's Word (the Holy Bible), His teachings, what the Holy Spirit
leads me to share in prayer, and lessons from my testimony, are the focuses.
In Service to My Heavenly Father, Charrese Monique
Boldness & Virtue Ministries
I love you all, and I thank you for your kindness!
My Celibacy Story:
If you would like to watch my celibacy journey testimony video, please check out the video below! May God bless you all!
"Celibacy" | Boldness & Virtue (Episode 1):
Copyright
2020, Charrese Monique. All Rights Reserved.
If you can trust a man-made CHAIR to hold you
up—you can trust GOD to hold you up when you are down, in need, struggling,
depressed, stressed out, heartbroken.
If you can trust a man-made SWEATER to comfort you—you can trust
the HOLY SPIRIT, God's very own Spirit, our COMFORTER, to comfort you when in
need.
If you can trust a man-made BUILDING to shelter you—you can
trust GOD to shelter you, provide for you, protect you.
If you can trust a man-made REMEDY to help or heal you—you can
trust GOD to help and heal you! JESUS heals!
If you can trust a man-made PHONE to connect you—you can trust
our loving HEAVENLY FATHER, GOD, to connect you, perfectly.
If you can trust PEOPLE, with flaws, fickleness, and selfish
ways—you can surely trust GOD, who is perfect, reliable, trustworthy, faithful,
and absolutely unconditionally loving.
We sometimes, without a second thought, have no problem putting
our trust in man-made THINGS and PEOPLE, and even in OUR-FLAWED-SELVES, but
fail to remember just how loving, powerful, intentional, purposeful,
intricately strategic, trustworthy, and faithful, GOD—the awesome Creator of
the entire universe, our Heavenly Father, our very own Creator—truly is. When
we ask for God's will, we must trust God's timing. If we are deciding to trust
God's timing, we must be patient. While we are being patient, we must stand in
faith. As we stand in faith, we must be prayerful.
The devil is a LIAR. Our flesh—in opposed to being led by the
Holy Spirit—is UNWISE. Jesus is TRUTH. Seek God ALWAYS.
Trust God: God's perfect will, ways, timing, who, what, when, where,
why, and how. He is the beginning and the end, the Alpha and the Omega,
all-knowing, unconditionally loving, perfect. Our Heavenly Father knows what he
is doing. Trust Him.
It is now 2:00 AM. When the LORD leads, I follow—no matter the time.
Humbly said, these are the words the Holy Spirit has poured into my Spirit.
I love you all, but God loves you BEST of all. May God bless you
all.
In Obedience to the LORD, All Glory to God, Charrese Monique
Boldness & Virtue Ministries
Copyright 2020, Charrese Monique. All Rights Reserved.
Ladies and gentlemen, please stop wishing and
hoping that every man or woman you like will see your value; stop begging them,
stop chasing them, stop desperately trying to be seen by them. STOP LOWERING
YOUR STANDARDS. GOD HAS CREATED YOU FOR GREATNESS! YOU DESERVE RECIPROCATED
LOVE.
Please consider this: Everyone you meet is NOT
MEANT to recognize or embrace your value. Even if a man/woman does, that does
not mean that he/she is God's BEST for you--His dearly beloved child.
Pray about your love life. Pray about the men
and women you meet. Please know that Satan knows when you are lonely too, he
knows what your insecurities and weaknesses are and also how to seductively
speak to them through others, and he will send one of his impostors along your
path to break you—BE CAREFUL.
Again, PRAY about your love life. Seek your
Heavenly Father! He is all-knowing! He hears the conversations a person has
behind your back—good or bad. He knows a man's/woman's intentions for His
daughters/sons—love or lust. He knows whom HE desires for you, His precious
child.
The special man/woman God desires for you will
be perfect for you! Will that special individual be perfect? No. Will you be
perfect? No. However, because GOD is perfect and HE has joined you two
together: you will be perfect for each other. God has designed you two to
recognize each other.
Trust God and His love for you. Be patient for
the RIGHT one. Do not settle for, or stumble or suffer because of, the WRONG
one. Seek God and His will for your life . . . God's got you.
The LORD poured these words into my spirit to
share with you all. God loves you all so much. This is love. God loves you
immensely.
I love you all, but God loves you BEST of all.
May God bless you all. To God be the Glory, Typed in Obedience to God, Charrese Monique
Boldness & Virtue Ministries
Copyright
2020, Charrese Monique. All Rights Reserved.
Beauty Transcends Appearance (and Ladies, Allow God to Set You
Apart):
Understanding:
Understand that your beauty transcends your outer being, as God
has Created us: intricately, individually unique; to be emotional, intelligent,
intellectual, humorous, gifted, spiritual, beings; we have precious souls. Know
your worth: You are awesome, worth being loved, important to this life,
valuable beyond what you might understand. You are Created purposefully; God
was intentional when He Created you, beautifully so. Know these truths and act
accordingly, and humbly. Feed your spirit with God's Word and flourish in EVERY
way.
22 But the fruit of the Spirit [the result of His presence
within us] is love [unselfish concern for others], joy, peace, patience,
kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. There is no
law against these things!
-Galatians 5:22-23
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them
all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that
feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
-Proverbs 31:29-30
It is Okay to Take Care of Yourself!
There is nothing wrong with confidence—just be humble. Arrogance
and condescension are NEVER attractive. People remember how you make them FEEL.
Outer beauty should not take precedence over inner beauty: Your
"looks" won't save your soul. Your "looks" won't love
someone in the ways they deserve to be, are called to be, and are designed to
be loved. There is nothing wrong with self-care, grooming yourself, dressing
up, doing your makeup (if you like makeup), working out and desiring to be
fit—you should take care of the vessel God gave you, your body is your precious
temple. Above all else, make sure your spirit-person and your relationship with
God, our Heavenly Father, are healthy!
Remember to not cause others to stumble (financially, lustfully,
seeking to make others jealous or envious, etc.), as we are called to LOVE one
another, and part of loving one another means trying our best to not cause
others to stumble.
3 Now do as I tell you—take a bath and put on perfume and dress
in your nicest clothes. Then go to the threshing floor, but don’t let Boaz see
you until he has finished eating and drinking.
-Ruth 3:3
3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the
hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— 4 rather let it be [the inner
beauty of] the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a
gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.
-1 Peter 3:3-4
34 So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other.
Just as I have loved you, you should love each other.
-John 13:34
The Most Beautiful Thing in Life is This:
Jesus is our Lord and Savior!
16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten
Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.
-John 3:16
9 If you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and
believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
-Romans 10:9
I love you all, but God loves you BEST of all! May God bless you
all.
Typed Prayerfully, as Led by the Lord,
All Glory to God,
Charrese Monique
Boldness & Virtue Ministries
Copyright 2020, Charrese Monique. All Rights Reserved.
