Boldness & Virtue

Friday, October 7, 2022

My Hair Disappeared in My Sleep: Narcissistic Abuse – Charrese Monique (Testimony)

My Hair Disappeared in My Sleep:

Narcissistic Abuse

- Charrese Monique (Testimony):

Imagine waking up one day, and almost all of your hair is missing . . . MISSING. It is not on your pillow. It is not on the floor. It is just simply NOWHERE TO BE FOUND.

Imagine waking up to go to the restroom, and what you see in the mirror . . . IS YOUR HAIR MYSTERIOUSLY REDUCED TO ONLY ABOUT AN INCH LONG and some places EVEN SHORTER, and this is ALMOST ALL OVER YOUR HEAD . . . about 99%. HAIR: NOWHERE TO BE FOUND.

That is what happened to me back in 2014. Be careful who you call "best friend", "friend", "family", etc., including in your family.

For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.

-Ephesians 6:12

Imagine the culprit being someone you once held closely to you . . . .

Imagine the Holy Spirit comforting you and you NOT CRYING when you see your almost bald head: This is my truth!

Imagine no weapon forming against you prospering: GOD grew my hair back more beautiful, healthier, and longer than it was before it was "removed".

Imagine you still being confident and (humbly said) still feeling beautiful through it all: I NEVER lost my confidence.

Understand this: NOTHING a person attempts or does to sabotage God's will for your life will succeed! This is MY truth! This is GOD'S truth!

Because of Jesus . . . I win. I received more than and healthier than what I had lost! Hallelujah! On to the future I go!

Note: This is my real hair (in the video). I have trimmed it as well as cut it several times for its health. How it looks with the additional hair added (end of video) is about my desired length, God willing. God is amazing.

God is Love,

All Glory to God,

Boldness & Virtue Ministries

Charrese Monique

Men Matter to God, Too, Ladies!

Men Matter to God, Too, Ladies!

Ladies, it is NOT all about us women: God needs to make sure that YOU are also right, ready, and prepared for His son. Can God trust you with His son? God cares about His sons, just like He cares about His daughters. His sons also have feelings, past heartbreaks, hopes, desires, and goals; and God has purpose and a will for their lives as well. We women are to ADD to their lives—love, positivity, support, partnership, laughter, smiles, comfort, and more goodness. We are NOT to serve as distractions, seductresses, problems, or stumbling blocks, in their lives or in God's will for their lives. God’s Word says the following:

Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.”

-Genesis 2:18

Understand your value as a woman in a man's life: Our LOVE is necessary and important.

[It is almost 6:00 am (December 4, 2021, at the time of recording), and I am in between sleep. The Holy Spirit just poured these words into my spirit, and as always, I am sharing as led by Him. Glory to God.]

God is Love,

All Glory to God,

Boldness & Virtue Ministries

Charrese Monique

"Strong Woman"

"Strong Woman"

"Strong woman" does not mean the following: being argumentative, loud, combative, abusive, a know-it-all, vengeful, violent, controlling, or acting like "Miss Tough Woman".

Those things say the following: "I am hurting." "I need healing." "I am seeking attention in a toxic way." "I need direction." "I need guidance." "My femininity needs nurturing." All of those things say: "I need to understand (and even receive) real love." (Please read and study 1 Corinthians 13.)

What does a "strong woman" exhibit? The following:

Holding your peace when necessary and wisely choosing your battles—this shows strength.

Prayerfully and carefully choosing your words before speaking and instead of flying off the handle—this shows strength.

Responding with love, in a calm speaking tone, with the ability to bring down the tone of a disagreement with a mature and loving disposition—this shows strength.

Leaving things in God's hands when this is the best option—this shows strength.

Mature and loving consistency—instead of abrupt blow-ups, impatience, manipulation, and seduction—this shows strength.

Patiently explaining, edifying, teaching, having compassion, being empathetic and sympathetic, and remembering where God has brought you from—instead of condescension, behaving holier-than-thou, being rude, and quickly losing patience—this shows strength.

Being a good listener—instead of always talking, making things about yourself, quickly interrupting in a conversation, or always trying to demonstrate how much you know—this shows strength.

Listening to try to understand and to try to find a resolve—instead of listening JUST to respond (rebuttal), defend, find a flaw, argue, or find an opportunity to make yourself a victim—this shows strength.

Being able to admit to your mistakes, to hold yourself accountable for your parts in an issue, and to apologize even if you have to do so first or are the only one to do so—instead of being prideful, arrogant, stubborn, or always playing the victim—this shows strength.

Confronting someone with love and patience, instead of with yelling in anger—this shows strength.

Femininity is beautiful. Peacefulness is beautiful. Patience is beautiful. Being mindful as well as prayerful is beautiful. Being wise is beautiful. Trusting God is beautiful. All of this—especially in tough times—shows strength. We are not perfect, so please understand that growth is also beautiful.

God is not asking us as women to be spineless or voiceless. He is asking us to understand what "strong" truly means. Toxic behavior can sabotage a lot of blessings and opportunities. Misunderstanding what "strong" truly means can destroy peace. It can destroy happiness. It can destroy true love and relationships. It can hurt others. It can hurt you within.

4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.

-1 Peter 3:4

God is Love,

All Glory to God,

Boldness & Virtue Ministries

Charrese Monique

Jesus Chose YOU

Jesus Chose YOU:

"But I'm no good."

"I made too many mistakes."

"But I . . . *insert sins, mistakes, and/or flaws here*"

Guess what? God did not ask you all of that!

God wants you to COME AS YOU ARE—and the more you get to know Jesus, seek God, read His Word, and allow yourself to be led by His Holy Spirit, it will be pretty hard to STAY as you are or to even totally desire to. (We should come as we are, but we should not remain in our sins. God can help us with this.)

God is NOT asking you to change BEFORE you come to Him: Changes come WHEN, AFTER, and BECAUSE you have come to GOD! Of course, we must try, we must do our parts—and God will do the rest! When we ask Jesus Christ to come into our hearts and we accept Him as our LORD and Savior, submit to God's will, and we let God lead the way, EVERYTHING will fall into place, including our purpose(s) in life.

Let us take Paul (formally "Saul") for example:

Paul killed many people. In fact, Paul killed Christians thinking he was doing the right thing spiritually. God could have looked at Paul and his actions and said, "Throw the whole man away!" HOWEVERRRR, God did NOT do that!

God looked at how passionate Paul was! God looked at Paul's passion, his determination, his persistence, his vigor, his strength, his leadership abilities, his refusal to back down, his fearlessness, his boldness, and his capability to stand up for what he believes is right! God also already knew His purposes for Paul.

With all that in mind: God stopped Paul in his tracks, God met Paul where he was—(literally) physically, mentally, characteristically, emotionally, and spiritually—showed him what is right; Paul submitted to God's perfect will and accepted God’s love, and God used ALL of those awesome qualities God had already placed in Paul for GOD'S WILL! For GOOD! For GOD'S KINGDOM!

God has perfect plans for your life. Do not back away because of past sins, current sins, flaws, fears, mistakes, past failures, insecurities, etc. God already knows all. God already has everything covered. God just wants YOU. God chose YOU for a reason. Accept His love and His perfect plans for your life, submitting to His loving and perfect will for your life, and everything will be worked out for your good . . . everything will fall into place and in God's perfect timing.

You might have doubts—but we can trust our entire selves and our entire lives in the loving hands of our ALL-KNOWING God.

If you are asking yourself, "Why me?" Well, WHY NOT you? YOU are JUST RIGHT, and chosen by our PERFECT Heavenly Father.

It is time to REALLY LIVE.

All Glory to the Most High, our Heavenly Father, God. These are the words the LORD poured into my spirit to share. May God bless you.

Jesus Chose YOU.

God is Love,

All Glory to God,

Charrese Monique

Boldness & Virtue Ministries

Saturday, July 3, 2021

About Charrese Monique

Hello!

My name is Charrese Monique. I share the following humbly and giving all glory to God.

PERSONAL (IN SHORT):

Before I am anything else, I am God's daughter, a woman of God, saved by my precious LORD and Savior, Jesus Christ! I love to smile and laugh, no matter what. I love singing, music, nature, animals and wildlife, learning, photography, and creativity. I adore love itself, according to God's Word. I am a family person. At times, I am a professional loner. I tend to almost always do a happy dance when I eat something that tastes really good. I am a warrior for Jesus Christ! These are just pieces of who I am.

BOLDNESS & VIRTUE MINISTRIES:

At the beginning of 2019, God entrusted me to start a ministry: Boldness & Virtue Ministries. In this ministry, we are about to talk about life and many big topics! All of life's answers can certainly be found in the Holy Word of God—and we are about to explore! All glory to God!

As a part of the ministry, I have a one-season show called: Boldness & Virtue. This show deals with big topics such as: celibacy, toxic friends, living with purpose, feeling incomplete, forgiveness, Christian life, and more! There are Biblical teachings included, as well as reference scriptures and more shown on-screen throughout each episode. My own story times, personal life lessons, and testimonies are shared, and while I am an otherwise private person, I am as personal and as candid as the LORD leads me to be. So, get comfortable! Do not forget your Bibles or Bible apps! Feel free to study along and take personal notes!

I also film a series called: Moments of Edification. Moments of Edification shares quick messages of edification, Biblical teachings, encouragement, and Words from the Lord. There will also be discussions, interviews, and more! Prepare to meet other brothers and sisters in Christ!

The latest addition to the ministry is a series called: Please, Listen. The focus of this series is on loving one another, in this case, by listening to the hearts of others—with a loving, listening heart. However, the topics at hand are also meant to raise awareness about serious issues. Please, Listen also focuses on sharing the Gospel of Jesus Christ. This series is substantially free-flowing. As the LORD leads, we follow.

The Boldness & Virtue Ministries Blog features every episode of every show and series, along with extras titled, “A Little Something Extra,” in case you want more. There are also special blog posts about life, love life, communication, Christian love, prophecy, and more—all backed up by the Holy Bible, all Holy Spirit led. Some of this, you will find only on the Boldness & Virtue Ministries Blog! It is really “home” for all things related to Boldness & Virtue Ministries.

MUSIC AND FILM:

Independently, and for my Heavenly Father: I am a singer (I also rap), songwriter, music producer, and musical engineer. I am an independent artist, as I love to produce own music. Also, I am a filmmaker (videographer), editor, graphics and logo creator, director, and producer. I love to create!

All productions—no matter the genre the LORD leads me to create—will be moral and Christian at its roots.

AUTHOR | BLAMELESS HEARTS BOOKS

(BY CHARRESE MONIQUE):

Introducing Blameless Hearts Books, by Charrese Monique! As led by the LORD, the name of my Publishing Company was inspired by Philippians 2:15-16. On January 13, 2022, I officially published my very first work as an author: 2022 Inspirational Dog Calendar: Keera! My very first chapter book will be available soon! It will be available in both physical and eBook forms! There is much more to come!

MODESTY MODEL | VIRTUOUS MODEST BEAUTY BLOG:

Virtuous Modest Beauty is my fashion and beauty blog! This is the motto:

“Virtuous Modest Beauty: Encouraging the embodiment of internal beauty and having a humble heart, while still caring for your exterior. | Seeking a more peaceful, satisfying, beautiful life, according to God's will. | Encouragement is available for all—men and women! Modest fashions and more are showcased for women and teens! Ladies, you are more than your body parts! To be a woman of virtue is beautiful!”

As led by the LORD, I will be modeling modest fashions for women and teens! Fun and fashionable fashions, accessories, beauty tips, fun photo shoots, and encouragement are all included!

PHOTOGRAPHY:

I officially began professional photography in 2011. The official name I have labeled my work under is: "Charrese Ti'Chelle Photography” (this will mostly likely change in time). Initially, I shot beauty portraits, business portraits, models, friendship portraits, maternity shoots, and family portraits. However, I have also shot very special events (a wedding for example), candid photography for get-togethers and parties, product photography, wildlife and nature photography, and a little astrophotography (mostly moon photography). Currently, I am in the midst of a transition in my life, and this extends to my photography work.

On January 13, 2022, my photography work was officially published for the very first time! I officially published my very first work as an author: 2022 Inspirational Dog Calendar: Keera! This work featured my photography of my dog!

CONCLUSION:

My top priority in doing God's will. God always comes first. I give God the glory for all He asks me to do in this life.

Humbly said, I am excited to share all that God places in my spirit to share with you! My goal is not to be idolized: My goal is for GOD to be glorified! I am just a vessel for the LORD, a child of the King in service to my dear Heavenly Father, God—who loves God, you, creativity, and talking! To GOD be all the glory and praise!

Thank you for being supportive of God's plans for my life! May you be blessed beyond measure!

Keep smiling! Remember: YOU have purpose! Your very existence is proof of that!
I love you all, but God loves you BEST of all! May God bless you all!

In Service to my Heavenly Father,

With Sisterly Love and Smiles,
Charrese Monique

LINKS TO EVERYTHING AVAILABLE:

For Business Inquiries:

CharreseMonique@yahoo.com

Everything available—ministry, music videos, short films, blogs, vlogs, and more—will be linked here in my Linktree:

https://linktr.ee/Charrese_Monique

INSTANT Encouragement: Philippians 4:4-9

Saturday, June 5, 2021

True Love Desires More

There are key expressions in the verses below:

"ALTOGETHER beautiful/lovely"

"Desirable in EVERY WAY"
"Beautiful in EVERY WAY"
"YOUR LOVE delights me"

Young Man:

7 You are altogether beautiful, my darling,

beautiful in every way.

8 Come with me from Lebanon, my bride,

come with me from Lebanon.
Come down from Mount Amana,
from the peaks of Senir and Hermon,
where the lions have their dens
and leopards live among the hills.

9 You have captured my heart,

my treasure, my bride.
You hold it hostage with one glance of your eyes,
with a single jewel of your necklace.

10 Your love delights me,

my treasure, my bride.
Your love is better than wine,
your perfume more fragrant than spices.

11 Your lips are as sweet as nectar, my bride.

Honey and milk are under your tongue.
Your clothes are scented
like the cedars of Lebanon.

12 You are my PRIVATE garden, my treasure, my bride,

a secluded spring, a hidden fountain.

-Song of Solomon 4:7-12

Young Woman:

16 His mouth is sweetness itself; he is desirable in every way [altogether lovely]. Such, O women of Jerusalem, is my lover, my friend.

-Song of Solomon 5:16

10 I am my beloved’s, And his desire is toward me.

-Song of Solomon 7:10

This video was filmed a couple years back, but the message is STILL VITAL: We are MORE than our bodies! God created us with purpose; and He gave each of us a soul, spirit, heart, mind, emotions, intellect, humor, gifts, spiritual gifts, and more. Physical attraction is and feels beautiful. Sexual attraction is beautiful and exciting, when in alignment with God’s Word. However, LOVE goes BEYOND physical and sexual attraction: It speaks to the depths of you. TRUE LOVE desires and requires the essence, the entirety of a person. LOVE covers what physical attraction and sex cannot (please deeply study 1 Corinthians 13).

The LORD is leading me to repost this video, along with the words He first gave me for this video:

"You won't find true love through sex. You won't be 'complete' by having a man or a woman in your life. Stop looking in the wrong places for these things: True love comes from God—both spiritually and regarding your love life. Remember, 'Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.' -James 1:17. Also, please pay close attention to how an individual loves and respects GOD as well as THEMSELVES, as this will tell you a lot about how they may or may not love and respect YOU, and whether or not they are God's best for you. Lastly, please know that you are MORE than just your body, you are MORE than your exterior: One must seek to love, as well as value the importance of, your interior. Never settle for less."

💝Happy Celibacy Awareness Month.💝

(My Celibacy Update: I have been celibate for 17 and a half years now. I am still saving myself until marriage.

Please understand that God’s timing is perfect.)

I love you all, but God loves you BEST of all! May God bless you all!

In Obedience to My Heavenly Father,
All Glory to God,
Charrese Monique
Boldness & Virtue Ministries,

Copyright 2021, Charrese Monique. All Rights Reserved.

Wednesday, May 26, 2021

Blessed "in the Presence of My Enemies"

Blessed "in the Presence of My Enemies":

Some people have found unexpected and surprising individuals trying to connect with them, in person and/or on social media: unexpected phone calls and text messages; surprising social media followers, friend requests, subscribers, inboxes, and so on. Also, some people have surprising individuals who have lingered around their life, but the reason is not clear. You have no idea why these surprising individuals would even want to connect with you or be near your life in any way—given their KNOWN negative feelings and behaviors toward you (past or present), or their close relationships or connections with your enemies. Well, do not be surprised. This is to be expected.

Remember what God's Word says will happen:

You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil; My cup runs over.

-Psalm 23:5

Remember that prophetic Bible verse when you find yourself surrounded by people, whether in person or online:

—Who you KNOW do not like you.

—Who you KNOW are at least not very fond of you.

—Who you are AWARE are jealous or envious of you.

—Who you KNOW have tried (or still try) to compete with you.

—Who you KNOW have a history of gossiping about you.

—Who you KNOW have let other people talk badly about you, and they stood there and said or did nothing to demonstrate their friendship or their love or respect for you, or they even participated in the bad-mouthing against you.

—Who have said mean, hurtful, or hateful things to you.

—Who you KNOW have SOMETHING against you.

—Who you KNOW are [not-so-] secretly working for someone who does not like you (spying on your life and acting as "carrier pigeons" for someone who has something against you).

—Whom you celebrate and congratulate during their special occasion and achievements, but they rarely or just never celebrate or congratulate you.

—Who have never been welcoming toward you, and/or have treated you unkindly.

—Who have KNOWINGLY hurt your feelings, broken your heart, harmed you, or sinned against you—in ANY way—but have never apologized to you and act as if their wrongdoings never happened.

When you find this "strange" phenomenon occurring in your life, and God is leading you to allow these surprising individuals to be present in some way (typically in a non-personal way)—find it NOT strange! Rather, GET READY FOR YOUR BLESSINGS TO UNFOLD! Some of those "enemies" who have surprisingly shown up or have lingered in or around your life: GOD has those individuals present for HIS reasons.

This is NOT justification for gloating or about rejoicing when our enemies fall! We should not do either (please refer to Proverbs 24:17)!

Forgive all (even without apology). Be kind to all (God is watching your actions and responses and listening to your words as well). Love all, and demonstrate that love to all (Jesus is our greatest example of how to love). Move onward with your life and—with a HUMBLE heart—enjoy God's blessings in your life.

God's reasons for wanting us to be blessed before the presence of our enemies will vary. Our enemies might somehow be reaping what they have sown in our lives. God might even be teaching our enemies some kind of valuable life lesson by blessing whom they have treated so badly. No matter what God's reasons are, God knows what He is doing, and either way, God is LOVE—and our Heavenly Father disciplines and chastises us as HIS CHILDREN WHOM HE LOVES (please read Hebrews 12:5-11).

So, also consider the following: Your forgiveness, kindness, love, and humble heart and behavior, could also bring your enemies closer to Jesus Christ (we should desire this). Remember what Jesus Christ says:

44 But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you! 45 In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and he sends rain on the just and the unjust alike. 46 If you love only those who love you, what reward is there for that? Even corrupt tax collectors do that much. 47 If you are kind only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? Even pagans do that.

-Matthew 5:44-47

Yes, some surprising and unlikely individuals who show up and try to reconnect or connect with you genuinely desire to apologize to you, make things right, befriend you, or be in your life in a loving way. However, the Holy Spirit is guiding me to only deliver the message above because: A SHIFT HAS ALREADY OCCURRED (in Jesus mighty name, amen).

These are the words the Holy Spirit suddenly poured into my spirit this morning, and I am to share them now.

All glory belongs to God.

I love you all, but God love you BEST of all! May God bless you all.

In Obedience to My Heavenly Father,
All Glory to God,
Charrese Monique
Boldness & Virtue Ministries

Copyright 2021, Charrese Monique. All Rights Reserved.