Boldness & Virtue: 2022

Tuesday, October 11, 2022

Gentle Spirit of a Good Woman

Gentle Spirit of a Good Woman:

You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.

-1 Peter 3:4

There is something so beautiful about a gentle spirit of a woman.

Be the calm to his storms.

Be the peace in his unrest.

Let him see contentment when he looks into your eyes, at your smile, or as he looks at you across a room.

Let your smile warm his heart.

Let your gentleness calm his fears.

Let your touch bring him peace.

Let your kiss fill him with the feeling and knowledge of being truly loved.

Let your gentleness transform into passion when being sexually intimate with your husband, as your emotional and spiritual beings have a heightened awareness—sensitivity—of what your body can express when driven by love; your gentleness is sensitive to his and your emotions and it actually fuels your passion in moments of sexual intimacy.

Gentleness. Meekness. Peacefulness.

Be his river of constant-flowing love, continually being filled by our Heavenly Father, as you always seek God about your special someone. Seek God about how to properly love specifically him, how to embrace him, how to be patient with him, how to communicate with him, how you can serve him best as his helpmeet, how you can comfort him when he needs comforting.

Comfort him with your gentleness: A gentle smile. A gentle touch. A gentle look of peacefulness and love. A gently spoken prayer as you hold hands. A gentle caress on his face. A gentle touch to his arm. Gently run your fingers through his hair and smile at him with sincerity, with a smile that says, "I genuinely want to see you sincerely smile." Gently smile at him with tenderness in your heart, with a smile that clearly says to him, "I love you."

Gently run your fingers across his back as you pass him by, with a touch that simply says, "I appreciate you." Gently whisper to him, "I love you."

In your private moments with God, gently say to God about your special someone, "Heavenly Father, I thank You for him."

There is something so beautiful about a gentle spirit of a woman . . . be that for him.

Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.”
-Genesis 2:18

Those beautiful words [they are much more than just "words"], the LORD began to pour them into my spirit, and God led me to record them. His Spirit is guiding me to share. Glory to God.

Ladies, Be More than Meets the Eyes for Him (Your God-Sent Sweetheart):

Don't just be candy for his eyes. Also be:

Edification for his soul,

Joy for his heart,

Enrichment for his mind,

Good health for his body,

Peace for his spirit,

Comfort for taxing moments,

Support for his purpose,

Prayerful protection over his existence,

Happiness in his life,

A reason for his smile,

A great blessing for his journey through life.

Understand your value as a woman. Know your worth. Be led by the LORD in his life. Be humble yet confident as his wonderful woman of God. Love him with the Love of the LORD, Jesus Christ.

God is Love,

All Glory to God,

Boldness & Virtue Ministries

Charrese Monique

God Chose YOU: Generational Change

God Chose YOU: Generational Change:

When YOU have been chosen: to change the whole direction of your family line, to break bad habits, to end toxicity, to stop disastrous patterns, to put a stop to generational curses, to send an ABUNDANCE OF LOVE through the next generations—God using you to accomplish these important, beautiful plans—please understand the following:

You will be attacked, including by . . . especially by . . . your so-called "family" and "friends". So, put on the FULL ARMOR OF GOD, according to Ephesians 6:10-18, 23-24 (below)!

Do not be discouraged! You have a wonderful calling, and the Holy Spirit will guide you all the way through; stay prayerful, all will be just fine! It is always darkest before dawn . . . and when your "dawn" comes . . . WHEN YOUR "DAWN" COMES: it will be BEAUTIFUL! Hang in there!

[Glory to God, the Most High. Hallelujah.]

THE FULL ARMOR OF GOD:

10 A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. 12 For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.

13 Therefore, put on every piece of God’s armor so you will be able to resist the enemy in the time of evil. Then after the battle you will still be standing firm. 14 Stand your ground, putting on the belt of truth and the body armor of God’s righteousness. 15 For shoes, put on the peace that comes from the Good News so that you will be fully prepared. 16 In addition to all of these, hold up the shield of faith to stop the fiery arrows of the devil. 17 Put on salvation as your helmet, and take the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

18 Pray in the Spirit at all times and on every occasion. Stay alert and be persistent in your prayers for all believers everywhere.

23 Peace be with you, dear brothers and sisters, and may God the Father and the Lord Jesus Christ give you love with faithfulness. 24 May God’s grace be eternally upon all who love our Lord Jesus Christ.

-Ephesians 6:10-18, 23-24

God is Love,

All Glory to God,

Boldness & Virtue Ministries

Charrese Monique

Talk to Your Children

Talk to Your Children:

I almost drowned in situations because I was never taught how to swim.

In situations where I should have simply swum away—I remained there panicking, kicking, screaming, crying, afraid, hurting, unsure about my future, drowning . . . because I was never taught how to swim. I even became prey . . ..

(I thank God for His Fatherly love, lessons, healing, and preparation along the way. God kept me afloat.)

Serious talks—about every area of life—with our children are vital. Preparing our children for their future and for life in general is vital. Teaching our children how to recognize red flags and toxicity in others, and even in themselves, it is all vital. Teaching our children when it is time to walk away from toxic situations and people—guilt-free, boldly regardless of feelings, and for the betterment of their well-being, is vital. Teaching our children that not every ending is a "loss", but rather, "gain"—of important life lessons, growth, happiness, new beginnings—is vital. Teaching our children to understand, acknowledge, embrace, and proclaim their value, is vital. Teaching our children how to have and maintain integrity, self-respect, and love for themselves, it is all vital. Teaching our children the importance of having a relationship with God, their Salvation in Jesus Christ, and being led by the Holy Spirit—vital.

Talk to your children! Nurture your children! Sincerely and unconditionally love your children! They are not your competition! Desire the best for them! Help them to grow and fly! Do not look at your children with jealous, covetous, envious eyes! Look at them with love! Talk to your children . . . it is vital. If you cannot help them in an area, that is okay, humbly ask for help from someone whom you can surely trust—just make sure your children are nurtured, growing, and being prepared for life. Make sure your children know that you sincerely love them, unconditionally.

God is Love,

All Glory to God,

Boldness & Virtue Ministries

Charrese Monique

Your Enemies Will Watch Your Elevation

Your Enemies Will Watch Your Elevation:

Some of you are wondering why some people are still around in your life after they have done you wrong . . . why God has not removed them, or why He has not delivered you from them. Here is why (for some of you): Because it says the following in God's Word:

"You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil; My cup runs over."

-Psalm 23:5

Look at the BIGGER picture, and in due time, your circumstances will change. In the meantime, understand the following:

God will heal you—right in front of the same people who hurt you!

God will exalt you—right in front of the same people that put you down and belittled you!

God will bless you—right in front of the same people who tried to curse you, who tried to sabotage you and/or your life, or who harmed you in any way!

God will show you favor—right in front of the people who treated you like you are beneath them, like you are worthless, like you are undeserving of God's best!

God will shower you with His love, with gifts, with blessings—right in front of people who loved you conditionally, those who did not truly love you at all, and the ones who were evil toward you!

GOD IS PREPARING A TABLE FOR YOU IN THE PRESENCE OF YOUR ENEMIES. He has His reasons . . . just know that all things God does is good, and He knows what He is doing. Enjoy your new life. Enjoy your blessings. Enjoy God's purposes for your life. Enjoy your new beginnings. Worry not about your enemies . . . just enjoy your life. Let them talk. Forgive, and enjoy your life. It is a new season . . . it has already begun.

[Thus Say the LORD. Hallelujah!]

God is Love,

All Glory to God,

Boldness & Virtue Ministries

Charrese Monique

Friday, October 7, 2022

My Hair Disappeared in My Sleep: Narcissistic Abuse – Charrese Monique (Testimony)

My Hair Disappeared in My Sleep:

Narcissistic Abuse

- Charrese Monique (Testimony):

Imagine waking up one day, and almost all of your hair is missing . . . MISSING. It is not on your pillow. It is not on the floor. It is just simply NOWHERE TO BE FOUND.

Imagine waking up to go to the restroom, and what you see in the mirror . . . IS YOUR HAIR MYSTERIOUSLY REDUCED TO ONLY ABOUT AN INCH LONG and some places EVEN SHORTER, and this is ALMOST ALL OVER YOUR HEAD . . . about 99%. HAIR: NOWHERE TO BE FOUND.

That is what happened to me back in 2014. Be careful who you call "best friend", "friend", "family", etc., including in your family.

For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.

-Ephesians 6:12

Imagine the culprit being someone you once held closely to you . . . .

Imagine the Holy Spirit comforting you and you NOT CRYING when you see your almost bald head: This is my truth!

Imagine no weapon forming against you prospering: GOD grew my hair back more beautiful, healthier, and longer than it was before it was "removed".

Imagine you still being confident and (humbly said) still feeling beautiful through it all: I NEVER lost my confidence.

Understand this: NOTHING a person attempts or does to sabotage God's will for your life will succeed! This is MY truth! This is GOD'S truth!

Because of Jesus . . . I win. I received more than and healthier than what I had lost! Hallelujah! On to the future I go!

Note: This is my real hair (in the video). I have trimmed it as well as cut it several times for its health. How it looks with the additional hair added (end of video) is about my desired length, God willing. God is amazing.

God is Love,

All Glory to God,

Boldness & Virtue Ministries

Charrese Monique

Men Matter to God, Too, Ladies!

Men Matter to God, Too, Ladies!

Ladies, it is NOT all about us women: God needs to make sure that YOU are also right, ready, and prepared for His son. Can God trust you with His son? God cares about His sons, just like He cares about His daughters. His sons also have feelings, past heartbreaks, hopes, desires, and goals; and God has purpose and a will for their lives as well. We women are to ADD to their lives—love, positivity, support, partnership, laughter, smiles, comfort, and more goodness. We are NOT to serve as distractions, seductresses, problems, or stumbling blocks, in their lives or in God's will for their lives. God’s Word says the following:

Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.”

-Genesis 2:18

Understand your value as a woman in a man's life: Our LOVE is necessary and important.

[It is almost 6:00 am (December 4, 2021, at the time of recording), and I am in between sleep. The Holy Spirit just poured these words into my spirit, and as always, I am sharing as led by Him. Glory to God.]

God is Love,

All Glory to God,

Boldness & Virtue Ministries

Charrese Monique

"Strong Woman"

"Strong Woman"

"Strong woman" does not mean the following: being argumentative, loud, combative, abusive, a know-it-all, vengeful, violent, controlling, or acting like "Miss Tough Woman".

Those things say the following: "I am hurting." "I need healing." "I am seeking attention in a toxic way." "I need direction." "I need guidance." "My femininity needs nurturing." All of those things say: "I need to understand (and even receive) real love." (Please read and study 1 Corinthians 13.)

What does a "strong woman" exhibit? The following:

Holding your peace when necessary and wisely choosing your battles—this shows strength.

Prayerfully and carefully choosing your words before speaking and instead of flying off the handle—this shows strength.

Responding with love, in a calm speaking tone, with the ability to bring down the tone of a disagreement with a mature and loving disposition—this shows strength.

Leaving things in God's hands when this is the best option—this shows strength.

Mature and loving consistency—instead of abrupt blow-ups, impatience, manipulation, and seduction—this shows strength.

Patiently explaining, edifying, teaching, having compassion, being empathetic and sympathetic, and remembering where God has brought you from—instead of condescension, behaving holier-than-thou, being rude, and quickly losing patience—this shows strength.

Being a good listener—instead of always talking, making things about yourself, quickly interrupting in a conversation, or always trying to demonstrate how much you know—this shows strength.

Listening to try to understand and to try to find a resolve—instead of listening JUST to respond (rebuttal), defend, find a flaw, argue, or find an opportunity to make yourself a victim—this shows strength.

Being able to admit to your mistakes, to hold yourself accountable for your parts in an issue, and to apologize even if you have to do so first or are the only one to do so—instead of being prideful, arrogant, stubborn, or always playing the victim—this shows strength.

Confronting someone with love and patience, instead of with yelling in anger—this shows strength.

Femininity is beautiful. Peacefulness is beautiful. Patience is beautiful. Being mindful as well as prayerful is beautiful. Being wise is beautiful. Trusting God is beautiful. All of this—especially in tough times—shows strength. We are not perfect, so please understand that growth is also beautiful.

God is not asking us as women to be spineless or voiceless. He is asking us to understand what "strong" truly means. Toxic behavior can sabotage a lot of blessings and opportunities. Misunderstanding what "strong" truly means can destroy peace. It can destroy happiness. It can destroy true love and relationships. It can hurt others. It can hurt you within.

4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.

-1 Peter 3:4

God is Love,

All Glory to God,

Boldness & Virtue Ministries

Charrese Monique

Jesus Chose YOU

Jesus Chose YOU:

"But I'm no good."

"I made too many mistakes."

"But I . . . *insert sins, mistakes, and/or flaws here*"

Guess what? God did not ask you all of that!

God wants you to COME AS YOU ARE—and the more you get to know Jesus, seek God, read His Word, and allow yourself to be led by His Holy Spirit, it will be pretty hard to STAY as you are or to even totally desire to. (We should come as we are, but we should not remain in our sins. God can help us with this.)

God is NOT asking you to change BEFORE you come to Him: Changes come WHEN, AFTER, and BECAUSE you have come to GOD! Of course, we must try, we must do our parts—and God will do the rest! When we ask Jesus Christ to come into our hearts and we accept Him as our LORD and Savior, submit to God's will, and we let God lead the way, EVERYTHING will fall into place, including our purpose(s) in life.

Let us take Paul (formally "Saul") for example:

Paul killed many people. In fact, Paul killed Christians thinking he was doing the right thing spiritually. God could have looked at Paul and his actions and said, "Throw the whole man away!" HOWEVERRRR, God did NOT do that!

God looked at how passionate Paul was! God looked at Paul's passion, his determination, his persistence, his vigor, his strength, his leadership abilities, his refusal to back down, his fearlessness, his boldness, and his capability to stand up for what he believes is right! God also already knew His purposes for Paul.

With all that in mind: God stopped Paul in his tracks, God met Paul where he was—(literally) physically, mentally, characteristically, emotionally, and spiritually—showed him what is right; Paul submitted to God's perfect will and accepted God’s love, and God used ALL of those awesome qualities God had already placed in Paul for GOD'S WILL! For GOOD! For GOD'S KINGDOM!

God has perfect plans for your life. Do not back away because of past sins, current sins, flaws, fears, mistakes, past failures, insecurities, etc. God already knows all. God already has everything covered. God just wants YOU. God chose YOU for a reason. Accept His love and His perfect plans for your life, submitting to His loving and perfect will for your life, and everything will be worked out for your good . . . everything will fall into place and in God's perfect timing.

You might have doubts—but we can trust our entire selves and our entire lives in the loving hands of our ALL-KNOWING God.

If you are asking yourself, "Why me?" Well, WHY NOT you? YOU are JUST RIGHT, and chosen by our PERFECT Heavenly Father.

It is time to REALLY LIVE.

All Glory to the Most High, our Heavenly Father, God. These are the words the LORD poured into my spirit to share. May God bless you.

Jesus Chose YOU.

God is Love,

All Glory to God,

Charrese Monique

Boldness & Virtue Ministries